One of the common struggles I hear from people I work with is, “I feel lost,” “I don’t know what to do,” “I don’t know what the next step is.”
I hear you. You want to live life to the fullest. Do it right. Maybe your aim is to shine brighter. Help more people. Live your potential. Live your dream life.
I want to make a few strategies that can help ease the tension where you may feel lost, scattered, or confused in your life.
1. Let me start by saying this: It’s okay to feel lost. It’s okay to not have a plan (can be more fun that way too!). It’s okay to make things up as you go. Instead of feeling down about not knowing, see if you can get curious about the path you’re on. Perhaps “try on” these phrases: “Let’s see how this goes….” “What happens if I do this….” Remind yourself that life can be an adventure and it wouldn’t be interesting if we knew exactly what to do or how things were going to unfold.
2. There are no “right” or “wrong” choices. There are only consequences to the choices we make. It is crucial that you understand this. Say Sarah is deciding whether she to go to college or go to school to be a yoga teacher. If she decides to go to college, that particular decision will have certain consequences (the friends she meets, what she learns, the degree she earns, the debt she incurs, etc). Or, Sarah can go to yoga school, where she’ll have a different set of experiences and consequences (the people she meets, skills she develops, etc). We have to learn to reframe decisions. Whatever decision Sarah makes is not a mistake. Even if some of the consequences end up feeling heavy (like the debt incurred), there is ALWAYS wisdom and insight available on whatever path we’ve taken.
3. Let your curiosities guide you. This is so simple, but if you really feel paralyzed, start by following your curiosities. Let this be fun. Write down 20 things your curious about. In this list you can include conferences or events you’d like to attend, skills you’d like to learn, hobbies you enjoy, etc. Figure out how you can integrate these curiosities into your life in big and small ways that fit your lifestyle and budget. Say you’re passionate about learning about the chakras, maybe that $5000 training in Bali is out of your budget (right now), BUT perhaps you could get a book on the subject or take a local workshop. I find it’s important to feed these curiosities to help us understand ourselves better, connect with like-minded folks, and nourish ourselves on a deeper level.