Maybe growing up the holidays were the best part of the year. I remember I loved hanging out with my family, playing games, sledding, and of course presents!
Nowadays the holidays can feel stressful; something we need to get through. In this blog, I’ve outlined some ways to make the holidays feel more joyful and less stressful.
You don’t have to go to everything. I think many of us feel we need to say “yes” to everything unless we have a prior commitment. It’s important to look at what the motivation behind your answer is and if you are just avoiding ruffling feathers. If you do decline an invite, do so sooner rather than later.
You don’t have to share the details. If you have nosey and judgmental relatives, you don’t have to divulge every detail of your life. You can always change the subject or answer a question with a question. My relatives are always asking about my work and income level, and frankly it’s none of their business so I’ve learned how to give myself some space around these subjects.
You don’t need to stay the whole time. If you want to go to a gathering, but you feel worn-down by the thought of spending 5-6 hours with the group commit to staying for 1-2 hours and give yourself full permission to leave after that.
You don’t need to eat everything people offer. Eating foods with lots of sugar, dairy, and gluten can impact our energy levels. Just say “no thank you” if you’d rather not. They’ll get over it.
Realize your friends/family might have it tougher than you think. What I mean is meet them with compassion. Life is not so easy for any of us. Even when people say something judgmental, off, or critical, we can still respond with love. Note: This does not mean being a pushover or letting people walk all over you. Love can be direct. Love can create boundaries. Love can say “no thank you."
Those are a few of my holiday survival tips. Which one is your favorite? Do you have any that work well for you?